When You Miss Your Old Love

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Today a 36-year-old woman asked me what she should do about missing the man she once loved. I gave her my expert opinion based off of her particular experience and situation. However, in this post, I'm going to reference missing someone in general. 

As I continued my day, I began thinking about my own experiences with missing and longing. At evening fall the manifestation of what I had been thinking broke my fall. Sometimes when we miss someone we can eventually see their reflection. Even if they or you have moved on and forward, you may find that their mear existence penetrates your soul and those same feelings can come rushing in like the wind once again. 

I've had women say, "But, he's moved on. It's too late!" My response is, "Yes, he has. He's happy. And maybe where he is where he needs to be. So miss him, love him from a distance, long for him and make sure you don't do anything to mess up his true love or the soulmate moment that he's experiencing. What if she's the one to actually be 'his one!?' One woman said, "What if I'm the one for him, Elsie?" Perhaps, perhaps she may be and maybe the one he's with is really the one. I believe we should trust the universe and if he is truly the one, then trust that the universe would bring such clarity. 

To add to the confusion, I should explore the options humans have among them. You can either wait on the universe or you can take matters into your own hands - based on your intuition.

Why in the world did the relationship end in the first place, one might ask. Ah, sometimes fear causes us to lose the very thing that is good for us. Or maybe, the timing was off. Or maybe.... We can come up with so many theories and yet when it's all said and done, we sit and ponder the true representation of things. Maybe knowing or trying to figure it out may do more harm than good. With all these maybes and possibilities, I should leave you with one more. Maybe, what happened doesn't matter. What matters now is what you do with the now before it's too late to ponder any more possibilities. Or well, you can just leave well enough alone and allow him/her or them to be happy where they are and where they're already headed. 

Sometimes honoring him is leaving him alone, especially if that is what he may want. Honoring his relationship is honoring you also. And of course, honoring you is well, honoring you. What does honoring you look like? What would it feel like? If you yourself are in a relationship, then honoring your relationship would be either staying or leaving. Prior to speaking to your old love, you should close out on where you are before sharing your unwarranted feelings and declaration of love. 

So I'll leave you with this. "Yes, he has. He's happy. And maybe where he is where he needs to be. So miss him, love him from a distance, long for him and make sure you don't do anything to mess up his true love or the soulmate moment that he's experiencing." Or go for it and try once more. But be willing to lose in order to gain. To lose him forever because you lack courage, or to lose him forever because he's over the love you once both shared, or to lose what you have and gain and earn his love once again. 

Those my friends are your options. Will fear reign or courage or pride or love?

Sending you all light and love.

Dr. E